Making New Family: 6 Harmonious Ways to Get Along With You In-Laws

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Marriage means preparing to make a new part of the family. You may probably be thinking of how you’ll get along with your new in-laws. 

While your relationship may be a little closer than what you arranged for, you can gain big points with your spouse by developing a good rapport with your in-laws. All it would take is a big heart, goodwill, give-and-take, and here some of the ideas below:


Observe and Learn

Learn with your experiences on your partner's family to give you some insights about his or her family. Observe for signs of how your spouse's family, mainly their parents, have influenced them. It can help you to have more compassion and empathy for your partner's family struggles.

On the other hand, if there is pressure between your partner and their parents, you have to stay as a supportive spouse. However, also try to understand the perspective of your in-laws. At any point, when your spouse is trying to make sense of their position and asks for outside opinion, you may want to share your insights gently.

Always Act Respectfully

Hopefully, you have to do this naturally, but it’s a great policy to follow even if you don’t like their lifestyle or habits. Doing otherwise will only add more problems. In other words, if your partner's parents or family members are having a rude behavior, you and your partner may decide to have little contact with them.

Speak Up

If your feelings get hurt by your in-law's drunk comment or if you feel unwelcomed by your mother-in-law regardless of how hard you try to be friendly, don't overreact and put pressure on your spouse. Instead, determine what bothers you the most, talk with your spouse about it, and see if you can come up with a plan together to discreetly address the issue.

Look For Ways to Connect

If you feel that there's no way to connect with your one in-law, look if there is at least a thing you can do to reduce that intensity. See if they have other characteristics that you can focus on when you're going to interact with them. Knowing the reasons why you can't connect with them is for you to be clear on what are the things you will allow into your life and activities.

Always Listen To Them

In-laws seem to be full of stories and tales about their lives in years gone by or the present. Let them tell you their stories and make yourself their happy audience. You may learn something interesting, and it can make them feel great to be heard as well. 

Admittedly, most of the stories are probably about your spouse, and you can learn more about them. Thus, encourage your in-laws to talk with you. For example, invite them to tell you their stories about their childhood and teenage days.

Treat Them Naturally

Treat your mother-in-law and father-in-law as you would with your mother and father. Also, treat your sister-in-law and brother-in-law as you would with your siblings. Be natural, friendly, and warm around them as well as be open and honest in your communication. 

More so, relax when you're with them. Don’t feel as if your in-laws are testing or studying your behavior. Further, share with them your most profound thoughts and feelings, if appropriate. After all, your in-laws are your new family. Indeed, seeing them as such will help you get along with them.

Offer Personalized Presents

If you just met your future in-laws, consider offering them personalized gifts such as cards and mugs to show your warm welcome and respect will indeed give them an excellent first impression towards you. 

Not to mention, having a good impression from your in-laws will help you get along with them when the time you and your partner decide to make a family. To help you with that task, you can visit sites like to help determine the best-personalized gifts for them.


When you're married or in a serious relationship, your partner’s family will eventually also become your family. However, you may find some family members that are hard to get along with. But surely, you don't want to cause problems with your in-laws along the way, so it's necessary for you to follow those tips mentioned above. 

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